Monday, 4 September 2017

Doing What's Right For Us

how to make a life decision together as a young couple

  OK, where do I start? Firstly, I feel like today is the day that I have finally managed to take a moment, breathe and really reflect on the change in 'life circumstances' for me and Tom...

We've moved back in with my parents. Tom started his new job today and I literally felt like a mum dropping her child off for their first day of school when I watched him go in! I am looking for work and things are looking positive! I have a few interviews lined up so, hopefully, something good will come out of that!

It's hard to make a decision that's right for both of you and something we've got quite good at. I like to think that we both take each other's feelings into consideration and really do whats right for us as a couple, not just one individual.

I'm not going to lie, we both thought we'd have a fair few more years in Nottingham and had even started to prepare ourselves for staying there forever. I loved my job, we loved our flat and we loved the city but for the last few months, we weren't happy.

A massive reason was how much Tom wasn't enjoying his job. Most days, he would leave at 4am and get back at 8pm or be staying away for nights. He wasn't even doing a job he enjoyed which made it worse. His unhappiness made me unhappy and we weren't even able to barely see each other! Our flat tenancy was coming to an end and I hadn't yet signed my contract for another year working for Nottingham Trent...

So, we had a decision to make.

We listed the pros and cons and I honestly changed my mind on the decision every hour for a good month. In the end, we knew that moving back to Cambridgeshire, my home, was for the best.

I don't want to dwell too much on the things we left behind - my job being the biggest loss. Instead, we've both decided to look forward and at the positive aspects of our decision. I'm so happy to be back with friends and family and, really, it does feel right. Tom's so excited to be able to join the local football team and start playing again and we can actually save for a house now instead of renting which is a huge bonus.

We are just really excited to start the next chapter of our lives together and I'm hoping that it will be a positive one!


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